People turn to social media for many reasons: to laugh, learn, feel good, share or get support. And whether we realize it or not, we reveal a great deal of personal details on sites like Facebook, Twitter and Snapchat, even when messages disappear or when we set profiles to private. 

With this in mind, people going through a divorce would be wise use caution when it comes to using social media. This can be especially true if you want to avoid courtroom battles. Below, we list some important things to avoid on social media if you want your divorce to go as smoothly as possible.

  • Don’t assume it’s private or anonymous. Assume that information you share or even like could be read aloud in court. Think about the pictures you post and those in which people tag you and consider the image you are presenting, as this could come back to haunt you if they are compromising.
  • Rethink flirting on Facebook or setting up an online dating profile. It can be very painful for an ex to learn about online relationships or flirting during a divorce. Even if there were no suspicions of infidelity prior to filing for divorce, learning that you are already seeking out new relationships can have emotional ramifications that jeopardize amicable proceedings.
  • Don’t reveal sensitive or hurtful details. Spreading the details of a divorce online can violate the confidentiality of the process and destroy whatever trust there may have been between you and your soon-to-be ex.
  • Don’t harass each other. It’s easier than ever to contact someone online, whether you tag that person in a picture, send a message or write on his or her wall. However, doing this excessively or with the intention to hurt or embarrass that person can be harassment and could make it impossible for parties to feel comfortable working together to resolve divorce-related matters.

If you want an amicable divorce, avoiding these and other potentially negative social media behaviors can be crucial. Whether this means cutting back on using these sites or closing accounts altogether, restricting yourself in these areas could make the divorce process a little more peaceful.